KarMel Scholarship 2008

 

Essay

“An End to Ignorance”

By Athena Birckbichler

 

 

Desciption of Submission: “This work shows why am upset with the ignorance of gays and lesbians in our society and poses an answer to the problem.” - Athena

 

 

            The lines that begin the infamous and awkward sex talk that parents have with their children at some point after they hit puberty go something like this: “Well, you see…when a man and a woman love each other very much…” Almost never does this speech begin with “two men” or “two women” or just simply “two people.” Children accept what their parents tell them as absolute truths, as fact. If mom says a man and a woman, then a man and a woman it must be.

            Oftentimes people are not trying to discriminate by excluding gay relationships from this conversation. They just overlook them, because they do not know much about them. I feel this is extreme negligence by our society, and this is something that needs to change. A lot of parents today do not expect their children to be gay, because that is what their parents expected from them and what their parent’s parents expected and so forth. Therefore straight relationships are all that children are generally taught about. Instead of educating them about this and telling them that love between two men or two women is the exact same love as the love between a man and a woman, same-sex relationships become a mockery. In fact, a popular insult among teens is “You’re so gay” which only breeds anti-gay feelings.

            I was lucky enough to have parents who did not segregate or hate. I was always told that I would be loved no matter what I did with my life, whether I chose to work at the Dollar Tree for my whole life or chose to work for a billion dollar computer company; whether I was straight or gay. “I just want you to be happy,” mom and dad would always say. They understand that I am only going to be happy if I allow myself to be me. That is exactly what they have done, and this made it so much easier for me to come out to my family and friends.

            So many other teens know they would be disowned if they revealed that they were gay. I was lucky enough to be accepted by the most important people in my life. I want everyone to not have to worry about acceptance of their sexuality by their parents, by their peers, or by the rest of the world. I honestly think that the reason people are judgmental of same-sex relationships is because they are ignorant on the matter.

            Gays and lesbians have made leaps and bounds in the past ten or twenty years, but progress can be made, needs to be made, and will be made. The most obvious and important step is to talk openly about being gay. Ignorance is the biggest reason that people hate; they do not understand and actually fear what is different from them. These people need to know that nothing is wrong with us; we are what we are, and there is nothing we could or would do to change that.

 

 

 

 

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