KarMel Scholarship 2008

 

Essay

“To My Sexuality”

By Sara Woolcock

 

 

Desciption of Submission: “A letter written to my sexuality that highlights the fact that there is ambiguity between gay, straight, and even bisexual.” - Sara

 

 

When did you creep up on me?  Only a few days ago, I was just a girl, and now I have to choose.  I have to hide under my blankets, trying to figure out my feelings.  I have to cry and pound my fists, all because of you.  You couldn’t just leave me alone or at least make things simple. 

 

Why can’t you decide?  You twist and turn, bending in so many different ways I can’t keep them straight sometimes.  Funny, straight, sometimes I wouldn’t mind not being straight if you would just let me be gay, but you won’t.  It’s hard enough realizing I like to look at girls, but you have to make it difficult, making me straight one day and gay the next.

 

How did you become this way?  I know plenty of people who are gay, people who are straight, and even people who have accepted both.  I envy them.  I don’t think they ever had to deal with someone like you.  They are friendly with their sexuality.  They hug, cry, and go out for coffee on the weekends.  They don’t have this constant battle.

 

When will you let me go?  It’s like I’m caught in a rip tide, and you will never let me come back to shore.  Will you ever let me have a future, nice house with a husband or an apartment with my partner?  Will you ever let me find that one person that I can love completely?

 

What the hell are you, anyway?  Are you just some nebulous cloud that molds and forms into something unrecognizable?  Or are you like a bee, fluttering around from flower to flower, man to woman, trying to decide which nectar you like best?  Maybe you are just a clitoris, looking for anything that will rub you the right way.  All I ask is that you reveal yourself.  I just want to know.

 

You know what?  Maybe…maybe you are just as confused as me.  There are all these labels.  I bet you don’t know them all.  Bisexual.  Heteroflexible.  Bi-curious.  Lesbian-until-graduation.  I’m trying to pin you down, tack a label on your shirt, but you don’t want that 

 

What does it matter?  I love boys with their angular lines and calloused fingers, and I love girls with their soft curves and gentle touch.  As long as I can love, who cares who you are?  I know we can be friends.  Just let me love someone, and I will accept you as you are.

 

You are beautiful, my sexuality.  You are as unique as I am, ever changing and growing, a voice inside my head, whispering when I can allow myself to be happy.  You let me have my moments of abandon and release.  You make me smile and sometimes cry.  But most importantly, you made me realize that love doesn’t have a name.  It’s only love, and that’s all it needs.

 

 

 

 

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