KarMel Scholarship 2008

 

Personal Story

“Jill and Kate”

By Anonymous

 

 

Desciption of Submission: “I describe the generalizations of a relationship with the tingling, excitement, etc. I then bring up my friends Jill & Kate who were recently married. I explain the impact of their relationship on me.” - Anonymous

 

It looks like the everyday battle in which we all engage in order to find that one special person. We all go through the dating experience. We feel that excitement as a tingling in our stomachs. We get a grin ear to ear when their name is mentioned. The person enters our thoughts and doesn’t leave. Then the honeymoon period fades away and we begin to fight. We learn all of their little habits that drive us crazy. Sometimes the relationship does not survive past this point. However, other times it does.

I look at my friend who was recently married. The wedding was beautiful and full of love. They are comfortable with each other. They have been together for ten years and go through the normal ups and downs. When you are around them you know they love each other; not just the romanticized ideal of the other one. It is the down to earth deep rooted bond that makes you believe in love and gives you hope that you can one day find that too. It just happens to be a relationship between two women.

Does it look especially different to me because it is a lesbian relationship? No. I do not define a relationship in gay or straight terms. I do not characterize a relationship based on those conditions. In my opinion, to separate the relationships into gay and straight categories creates a pathway for segregation when there is no need for that. Some people fall in love with short people, others go for jerks, and others fall for the shy people. Jill fell in love with a kind yet sarcastic person—who just happens to be a woman.

Because of Jill & Kate I believe in love. When my cynicism overtakes me and I give up hope I turn my thoughts to them. I do fear that I will never have the bond the share. But, the optimism and comfort I experience overtakes that fear. They have true love and who doesn’t want to be around that?

 

 

 

 

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